YES, scratching is a form of self harm. Please try your best to stop and get help if you need to!! Do not be ashamed. Much love to you
People will tell you “be confident! You’re beautiful just the way you are,” but as soon as you start to listen, as soon as you start to believe it, you’re labeled as vain and conceited. That is ridiculous. Don’t ever let someone put you down for having confidence and loving who you are. Ignore those who call you beautiful and then call you out when you agree. Do not feel bad for liking the way you look or how smart and funny you are. That’s how it’s SUPPOSED to be. You’re not supposed to hate yourself, you’re not supposed to put yourself down and you SHOULD think that you’re beautiful. You should know. We’ve all been tricked to think that insecurity is the same as humility. That is a lie. ‘Insecure’ is not a default setting for a human being. Do not be afraid to think of yourself as brilliant and fantastic and worthy. Love yourself and be proud, be honored to be who you are. It doesn’t help to think otherwise.
So talk to him. He might be really nervous! You never know until you try. Go for it!!
If you really like the kid, you might have to be content with being his friend, at least for a little while. If it’s meant to be, it will be. Best of luck to you, I know how you’re feeling!! Continue to talk to him, and be there for him when he needs you. He should return the favor, even if y’all are just friends. Hope this helps!!
I really don’t know anything about this or what you and your family are going through, but my best advice is always to pray and to maybe seek help from a priest or someone well versed on stuff like that. Sending all the love, luck and light I can to you guys!!!
(part 2) and im still in love with him and i know i am because i can feel it and its unexplainable. and idk i still cry over him and of course just my luck hes mt neighbor and we’re vacationing at the same place at the same time… idk what to do i really wanna get over him but he is seriously so perfect and i love him so much. ive had depression issues, and have self harmed..i never told him but i stopped so he wouldnt find out.. and i was actually happy with him. he helped me through a lot…
Try to talk to him about it, okay? Just try. If nothing comes out of that, you’re going to need to move on because someone who ignores you and just stops talking to you like that is NOT worth your time, your energy, your thoughts or your presence. You deserve so much better than what he’s putting you through, especially if he’s doing this with malicious intent. Talk to him and talk about how he made you feel. And if it doesn’t work out, you can cry and whine about it as much as you need to, but at some point you’re going to have to pick yourself up and move on as best as you can…distract yourself, find a hobby, find good friends, talk to your family and find who you are without him. I wish you all the best and I’m sending all the love I can. I really hope this helps.
Break up with him, tell your parents, tell HIS parents. That kind of behavior is intolerable and you do not need to be with someone like that, no matter what. You do not deserve to be abused, whether it’s a physical slap or a verbal one. End it. It won’t be easy, but you’ll find someone who won’t treat you that way. You deserve better.
Smile and say hi!!
Move on. You have to, for your own peace and sanity. I know you really liked him, but you deserve someone that’s going to be with YOU when he likes you, not someone else. Hope this helps!
Tell everyone. I’m serious. Your teachers, your principle, your other family members. And call 911. Get to a safe place with your brother. The national child abuse hotline is 1-800-422-4453. Call there to report and get help. This isn’t going to be easy but you HAVE to do it, okay? You have to, no excuses. Don’t wait any longer. You and your brother are going to be okay. Don’t be scared.